Man urged to dump girlfriend who wore white dress to brother’s wedding – Daily Mail
A man has been told to read the red flags and run fast from his girlfriend after she wore a white dress to her brother’s wedding.
The anonymous US-based poster took to Reddit‘s True Off My Chest forum to share the story about why he refused to attend the family wedding with her.
In a post, he explained that she couldn’t understand why he thought it was inappropriate for her to wear a white dress to her brother’s wedding, and when she wouldn’t change her mind he made his excuses not to attend.
He said: ‘Last weekend my girlfriend’s oldest brother got married. She has one older brother and two younger ones.
Anonymous US-based man took to Reddit to ask people about wedding dresses. He refused to attend his girlfriend’s brother’s wedding because she insisted on wearing a white dress. She not only upset him but also angered her parents, who made her change outfits (stock image)
He explained that his girlfriend had been shopping with her mother to get a dress for the big day, but then decided on a different gown.
‘It was a lacy white floor length one,’ he said. ‘I asked her if it was really appropriate to wear a dress like to someone else’s wedding but she, “It’s not a wedding dress”.
‘It sure looked like one but she said it was only $150 and not a wedding dress.
‘I decided not to go because she was being so inappropriate and I thought it would be too embarrassing.
She told people that because her brother was homosexual her dress was fine. People have praised his decision to not attend the wedding with his girlfriend
‘I messaged her cousin that I might have been exposed to covid and couldn’t come because I didn’t want to make drama.’
However, it was not just her outfit that caused outrage but her behavior also left a lot to be desired:
‘I found out that she didn’t change her dress before she went. I also found out she got there later than she was supposed to and she started to try to walk up the aisle to her seat after everyone else was sitting in their seats and the wedding was about to start.
‘Her dad stopped her and she had to sit in the back.’
Her parents were that furious with her that they ‘drove her back to her apartment so she could change dresses between the ceremony and the reception.’
The man went onto detail how ‘she told everyone that since her brother is gay and there was no bride at the wedding she didn’t see a problem with wearing that dress.
‘Her parents made sure that the photographer didn’t take any pictures with her anywhere in them when she was wearing the white dress.
‘She’s still mad I didn’t go but I think I dodged a bullet. She still doesn’t think she did anything wrong.’
Many users on the forum were quick to back him up and support his decision for not attending the wedding with her.
However, a lot of people also told him to get out of the relationship and not to ignore the red flags.
Many people were quick to comment, expressing their shock that she would wear a white dress to someone else’s wedding. One person suggested that she was trying to create drama
One user posted: ‘Imagine the drama involved in her own actual wedding if he was misguided enough to marry her….’
Whilst another commented: ‘Damn. She’s nuts. You made the right move. I’ve only ever met one woman who was nuts enough to pull off a move of this magnitude, hubby’s first wife.’
A third said: ‘I know! Everyone knows you don’t wear white unless the couple says so (some people have all white weddings and ask guests to wear white) also I really don’t get the appeal of wearing a white dress in the first place. I mean white can get easily dirty and you have to be careful of like everything.’
And a fourth commented: ‘Some people live to create drama. The more drama they start the better. And they’ll always twist it so they are the victim.’
Others speculated about her personality with one person suggesting that she used homophobia to draw attention to herself
Other’s commented on her personality traits and warned the man to get rid of her quickly.
Someone posted: ‘That girl is a nightmare and full of “red flags” RUNNNNNN’
Whilst a second said: ‘Your girlfriend is, at best, a complete narcissist. You should seriously consider what a future with her is going to look like. Best of luck to you, bud.’
A third person said: ‘Yeah that’s not cringe, it’s unhinged. Seems like if you keep dating, there would be a lot of other situations where she would make you embarrassed and everyone else uncomfortable.’
And a fourth commented: ‘Honestly I jumped to homophobia too, but I’m also gay so I assumed it was my bias.
‘But that comment about there “not being a bride” strikes be as either someone who is (1) homophobia, or (2) such a self-absorbed ass that thy used homophobia to draw attention to themselves because it was convenient.’
Some people used their own experiences to illustrate how inappropriate this behaviour was, including one man who said his mother-in-law did the same thing to both of her daughters
Some people used their own experiences to illustrate how inappropriate this behaviour was.
One user posted: ‘Oh my god I’m a photographer and I almost packed a white sweater dress for a wedding I had to travel for. Fortunately I realized what I was trying to wear before I did it and packed maroon instead. But I have pregnancy brain. I was horrified I almost did that.’
Another said: ‘My mother-in-law did her level best to ruin both of her daughter’s weddings, including buying a white dress for both. Ours was the second wedding, so I was able to mitigate a lot of her antics, but she sure did try. The only real problem she caused was a profanity laced tirade in church at her ex husbands wife (the ex husband was the reason for her behavior) during the rehearsal and not showing up at the rehearsal dinner afterwards (in between, I had words with her).
‘She actually told my wife on one occasion that our wedding was her “day to shine” (mind you, she had two of her own weddings to “shine”).’