Internet Backs Man Uninviting Gay Brother From Wedding Over Rainbow Tuxedo – Newsweek

A soon-to-be-married man has been branded “homophobic” by his gay brother after uninviting him from the wedding over his plans to wear a rainbow-colored tuxedo.

But, while his sibling has been left furious over the snub, many online felt the groom was justified in excluding his brother from his big day, given the circumstances.

Weddings traditions have evolved in the past few decades, with certain traditions slowly dying out, only to be replaced by new ones, but one adage remains true: never upstage the bride.

For celebrity wedding planner Liz Taylor, that rule rings especially true when it comes to what guests choose to wear. “Guests should never try to upstage the bride,” Taylor told the Metro. “If you are privileged enough to be invited to attend a wedding day, it’s your responsibility to dress in an appropriate style and color.”

That’s essentially the crux of the argument involving one Reddit user posting as Yrboiduck, and his brother Sam.

According to the post (which has been upvoted 6,000 times, while earning over 15,000 upvotes in its comments), the groom had been looking forward to hosting Sam and his boyfriend Jack at the wedding.

But that all changed a week before the big day, when Sam sent him a picture of what he was planning to wear. “It was a rainbow tuxedo,” the brother wrote. The rainbow flag is synonymous with the LGBTQA+ pride movement.

“Initially I thought he was joking so I said ‘lmao.’ He was very hurt and told me to go f*** myself.” Though he said he had always been “completely okay” with whatever Sam had worn in the past, both he and his fiancée felt in this instance the suit was “inappropriate” and would “take the attention away” from them.

More importantly, the invitation to their wedding had noted the dress code was “black and white only.” Though the groom told his brother “he could come if he didn’t wear the outfit” Sam refused to back down.

“He said it cost a lot of money and he didn’t want it to go to waste because ‘I was being homophobic,'” he wrote.

Angered by Sam’s refusal to back down, the groom told him both he and his boyfriend were “uninvited” from the wedding. Sam fired back at his brother that he clearly didn’t want him there because he was “homophobic.”

“I am very much not homophobic,” the groom wrote. “I go to pride marches and have never had any problem with him being gay.”

While “most” of his family agrees with their decision, some are “refusing” to come to the wedding as a result of the snub. Yet social media appeared to side firmly with the wedding couple.

Patjames904 wrote: “A rainbow tuxedo? Seriously? Yes, that WOULD take attention away from the bride and you. He is pulling the gay card in order to strong arm you into letting him wear that to the wedding.”

“The issue is clothing that was not appropriate,” Downtown_Evidence_46 said. “The issue is not homophobia.” DirectBar7709 added: “You don’t get to buck the dress code just because you’re gay.”

InformalGarlic2285 commented: “It’s his fault for buying it before asking if he could wear it. You didn’t ask him to buy it, so that’s his problem. Your brother sounds very dramatic,” with Marzipan-Shepherdess writing: “This is the equivalent of wearing a full-length white gown to a wedding and then getting your nose out of joint when you’re told that it’s not an appropriate choice.”

“That’s your day,” Chicken_Parm_Calzone said. “When he gets married, he can wear his rainbow tux. I suggest you reconcile with him and work something out. It’s a big day to uninvite your brother over something silly that can easily be fixed.”

Newsweek has contacted Yrboiduck for comment.

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