Gay dads of triplets reveal the wild questions they get: ‘will you still love them if they’re straight?’ – New York Post
Thanks to science, families can be created in all sorts of wonderful ways now, whether it’s with the help of surrogacy, IVF or egg/sperm donation.
Now a gay couple has shared how their triplets came to be – and the sorts of insensitive questions they get asked about it from total strangers.
Husbands Sean and Jake are parents to 18-month-old triplets Winston, Wren and Willow and say they still get told “you’re gay, you should’ve adopted” when they explain that their children are biologically theirs.
Among the other comments from people, they explained in a TikTok video how they regularly get asked: “Will you still love them if they’re straight?” and “Which one of you is the mum?”
It took four people to make our family
Real estate agents Jake and Sean share their lives online to show how they manage to juggle three little ones. But it’s the story of how they had their triplets that has really captivated people.
“We started with an anonymous egg donor that we found through a database and she did an egg extraction, and we fertilized half of those eggs with my sperm and half with Sean’s sperm and ended up with 12 viable embryos,” Jake explains in a TikTok video.
“We did some testing so we knew which of those embryos were girls and which were boys. Then we implanted one boy and one girl embryo – one of each of ours (biologically).”
“That’s how we got triplets, one of our girls decided to split on us and it didn’t happen the way we planned but we couldn’t imagine life any other way!” Sean added.
The couple then used a surrogate named Heather, who they are still very close with, who carried the babies before they were born via cesarean.
“We have eight more embryos left”
The couple shared that their first attempt at starting a family was unsuccessful when two embryos were transferred to their surrogate, but she suffered a miscarriage at 12 weeks.
However, they were beyond thrilled to find out they were expecting triplets on their second attempt.
“So we have eight viable embryos left and we are currently paying each month to have them frozen – however we are pretty sure that our family is done with three,” Jake shared.
“It sounds a bit too hard for us to have exact biological matches to our children (out there), so we are leaning towards donating those embryos to science.”